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I’m Just Chaos In A Pretty Wrapper

I think to the people I choose to love I come off rather intense sometimes. That doesn’t bother me … I like giving my all to something when I choose to.

Do you remember one of the first nights we went out together?

I made sure you lost me in the crowd of people in that club and when you found me you caught me playfully laughing and flirting with a stranger. Yet, I still went home with you. It was just a game. You laughed about pulling me off another man and taking me home to make sure I was safe and out of anyone else’s reach. It didn’t bother you that I tried to test you. I wanted to see if you could handle my wild side, the side that wants to be wanted by everyone.

I’m a mess and you saw that right away, but you still told me all the sweet things I loved to hear you say. You still held me tight,even when I tried to push you away. You still made an effort to get to know me from the inside out. You tried.

I can admit that sometimes I come off strong, but I’d never felt such intense feelings for someone so quickly. I don’t blame you for being afraid either. After all … I don’t know how to love conventionally how most people do, love should be calm … or so I’ve been told. So, when I fall for someone I tend to get a bit reckless. I scare them away with my chaos.

I wanted to love you because you touched me in ways no one else has and somehow your saw through my layers. You started to peeled them back but I think you were afraid of what you saw when you did.

I knew this all along and tried so hard to hide the fact I saw you get scared, because I knew you wouldn’t be able to handle me telling you. People don’t go searching for disaster. They get stuck with it and will try and hard as possible to avoid it, I would have been disastrous for you.

I wanted to calm down to be less of me for you and I tried. But soon I realised that trying to do this only built up the chaos in my heart even more. I couldn’t contain it, which is too bad because I wanted so badly to love you in the way you wanted me to. I just don’t think that it was ever possible for me. I couldn’t love you calmly.

I can only love chaotically. I can only love passionately, ferociously and there is always damage left behind after I do so. You could tell right away. It’s why you took a few steps back.

You told me you couldn’t be in a relationship, but I knew it was just me you couldn’t be with. I know I was too much for you. I know that you were scared to love me, because my feelings were intense and I can’t do anything half heartedly, I enjoyed being obsessed with you.

I get it … I suppose. But it doesn’t mean that it didn’t hurt.

Besides, I have found love before. I have been loved with the same intensity I give to others. He met me in the middle of my chaos and although it ended in a ball of flames, I know that it was the most real love I’ve ever felt. I know that I can be loved, just not by someone who isn’t strong enough to do so, or someone that is scared to love intensely.

I can be a disaster, like a walking tornado or a fire that no one can put out. I’m happy to be the center of attention in the middle of a crowded dance floor. The thing is, you saw this and part of you wanted to experience what I could give, but only the good parts. You only took what you wanted and left behind the parts that seemed like too much for you to handle at times.

But, you don’t get to choose which parts to love of someone. You don’t get to take away pieces, enjoy them, and run off with them when you feel like you can’t handle someone for who they are completely.

So, I’m taking my mess somewhere else. I’m freeing myself of the box you made for me because there’s someone who will see it all and want it all. They’ll get exited by the chaos and want to be in the middle of it to experience it all.

I know that sometimes I can be a little too crazy, but some people see that and crave the experience of my presence, all of it. I will only give it to them if I know they’ll be able to handle it. I will only allow those who are strong enough to be next to me in life and to enter my heart. What’s the point of pretending to be less of myself?

So, I’m walking away and I’m taking everything with me, the chaos and the calm.

You don’t get to take one part of me and leave the rest behind. You get all of me or nothing at all. So I suggest you find someone who can be less of everything for you …. someone who you can handle.

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The ‘Maybe’ Guy

Maybe he’s busy?

Maybe he’s not ready for a girlfriend?

Maybe he’s just a bit stressed at the moment?

Maybe I just wasn’t pretty enough for him?

I think maybe he prefers blondes?

Maybe I was a bit much for him?

You know what … maybe he’s just a prick?

So he doesn’t want to commit and you’re happy to sit around waiting for him to change his mind? For goodness sake … no you’re not happy to do that!

Your mum didn’t spend 9 months growing you for you to waste your life, waiting around for someone who isn’t treating you like the total queen that you are.

He hasn’t messaged you all day, you think he’s busy? No, if he wanted to speak to you it doesn’t matter how busy he is, he will find a way. That’s how men are, they go after what they want and clearly if you’re not seeing any effort he doesn’t want you or not enough to actively do anything about it anyway. Stop checking in on a person who does not check. in on you, you’re wasting your time. Find someone that will appreciate your concern.

If the effort isn’t there then know your worth, someone else is out there waiting to treat you how you should be treated, so please stop wasting your time on this ‘maybe guy’.

We’ve all been there, we get totally obsessed with the wrong person, normally it’s the one who has no time for us unless we’re naked. You find yourself looking at your phone more and getting butterflies when you see his name pop up (because it hasn’t popped up for the last week despite you messaging him).

Sometimes we just have to learn when enough is enough, we have to figure out when to archive their chats and unsave their names in our phones. He hasn’t treated you right, but to someone else out there you’re everything they’ve ever wanted.

Go and find a hobby that helps you grown as a person, that gives you more to talk about and gets you meeting new people, instead of sitting looking at your phone, checking to see if he’s watched your story or opened your snapchat … there are bigger and better things in this world than him.

You are a bigger and better person than he is, so do this for you. Not him.

A Guide On Oral Sex

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Now I have to be honest, this wasn’t written by myself. But I just thought it was far too good not to share with all of you lovely people! Hope you enjoy! Oh and guys, maybe take some notes!

The Pussy-Licking-Guide for evolved people in 15 magical steps

#1: Tell her she is beautiful and mean it.

Most women are shy about their bodies. Even if you’ve got the world’s most gorgeous woman in bed with you, she’s going to worry about how you like her body. Tell her it’s beautiful, tell her which parts you like best, tell her anything, but get her to trust you enough to let you down between her legs.

#2 Stop and appreciate her unique flower

Now stop and look at what you see. Beautiful, isn’t it? There is nothing that makes a woman more unique than her pussy. I know. I’ve seen plenty of them. They come in all different sizes, colors and shapes; some are tucked inside like a little girl’s cunnie and some have thick luscious lips that come out to greet you. Some are nested in brushes of fur and others are covered with transparent fuzz. Appreciate your woman’s unique qualities and tell her what makes her special.

#3 Women are more verbal

Women are a good deal more verbal than men, especially during love-making. They also respond more to verbal love, which means, the more you talk to her, the easier it will be to get her off. So all the time you’re petting and stroking her beautiful pussy, talk to her about it.

#4 Lick her outer lips, inner lips and find her clit

Now look at it again. Gently pull the lips apart and look at her inner lips, even lick them if you want to. Now spread the tops of her pussy up until you can find her clit. Women have clits in all different sizes, just like you guys have different sized cocks. It doesn’t mean a thing as far as her capacity for orgasm. All it means is more of her is hidden underneath her foreskin.

#5 Whenever you touch a woman’s pussy, make sure your finger is wet

Whenever you touch a woman’s pussy, make sure your finger is wet. You can lick it or moisten it with juices from inside her. Be sure, by all means, to wet it before you touch her clit because it doesn’t have any juices of it’s own and it’s extremely sensitive. Your finger will stick to it if it’s dry and that hurts. But you don’t want to touch her clit anyway. You have to work up to that. Before she becomes aroused, her clit is too delicate to be handled.

#6 Tease her & approach her pussy slowly

Approach her pussy slowly. Women, even more so than men, love to be teased. The inner part of her thigh is her most tender spot. Lick it, kiss it, make designs on it with the tip of your tongue. Come dangerously close to her pussy, then float away. Make her anticipate it.

#7 Play with her

Now lick the crease where her leg joins her pussy. Nuzzle your face into her bush. Brush your lips over her slit without pressing down on it to further excite her. After you’ve done this to the point where your lady is bucking up from her seat and she’s straining to get more of you closer to her, then put your lips right on top of her slit.

#8 Kiss her, gently, then harder

Kiss her, gently, then harder. Now use your tongue to separate her pussy lips and when she opens up, run your tongue up and down between the layers of pussy flesh. Gently spread her legs more with your hands. Everything you do with a woman you’re about to eat must be done gently.

#9 Tongue-fuck her

Tongue-fuck her. This feels divine. It also teases the hell out of her because by now she wants some attention given to her clit. Check it out. See if her clit has gotten hard enough to peek out of it’s covering. If so, lick it. If you can’t see it, it might still be waiting for you underneath. So bring your tongue up the top of her slit and feel for her clit. You may barely experience it’s presence. But even if you can’t feel the tiny pearl, you can make it rise by licking the skin that covers it. Lick hard now and press into her skin.

#10 Work her tip of the iceberg

Gently pull the pussy lips away and flick your tongue against the clit, hood covered or not. Do this quickly. This should cause her legs to shudder. When you sense she’s getting up there toward orgasm, make your lips into an O and take the clit into your mouth.

Start to suck gently and watch your lady’s face for her reaction. If she can handle it, begin to suck harder. If she digs it, suck even harder. Go with her. If she lifts her pelvis into the air with the tension of her rising orgasm, move with her, don’t fight her. Hang on, and keep your hot mouth on her clit. Don’t let go. That’s what she’ll be saying too: ‘Don’t stop. Don’t ever stop!’

There’s a reason for that, most men stop too soon. Just like with cock sucking, this is something worth learning about and worth learning to do well. I know a man who’s a lousy fuck, simply lousy, but he can eat pussy like nobody I know and he never has trouble getting a date. Girls are falling all over him.

#11 Finger-fuck her with TWO fingers

But back to your pussy eating session…There’s another thing you can do to intensify your woman’s pleasure. You can finger-fuck her while she’s enjoying your clit-licking talents. Before, during or after. She’ll really like it. In addition to the erogenous zones surrounding her clit, a woman has another extremely sensitive area at the roof of her vagina. This is what you rub up against when you’re fucking her. Well, since your cock is pretty far away from your mouth, your fingers will have to do the fucking.

Take two fingers. One is too skinny and three is too wide and therefore can’t get deep enough. Make sure they’re wet so you don’t irritate her skin. Slide them inside, slowly at first, then a little faster. Fuck her with them rhythmically. Speed up only when she does. Listen to her breathing.

She’ll let you know what to do. If you’re sucking her clit and finger-fucking her at the same time, you’re giving her far more stimulation than you would be giving her with your cock alone. So you can count on it that she’s getting high on this. If there’s any doubt, check her out for symptoms.

#12 Get to know her orgasmic symptoms to become even better

Each woman is unique. You may have one who’s nipples get hard when she’s excited or only when she’s having an orgasm. Your girl might flush red or begin to tremble. Get to know her symptoms and you’ll be a more sensitive lover.

#13 Don’t let go of her clit when she starts to orgasm – The Multi-Orgasmic Woman

When she starts to have an orgasm, for heaven’s sakes, don’t let go of that clit. Hang in there for the duration. When she starts to come down from the first orgasm, press your tongue along the underside of the clit, leaving your lips covering the top. Move your tongue in and out of her cunt. If your fingers are inside, move them a little too, gently though, things are extremely sensitive just now.

If you play your cards right, you’ll get some multiple orgasms this way. A woman stays excited for a full hour after she’s had an orgasm. Do you realize the full impact of that information? The potential? One woman was clocked at 56 orgasms at one sitting. Do you know what effect you would have on a woman you gave 56 orgasms to? She’d be yours as long as you wanted her.

#14 The cherry on the cake

Some women like to have their man rub and enter their anal section with their finger while they are being eaten out!

#15 After the orgasmic wave: Keep making love to her quietly

The last advice I have for you is this:

After you’ve made her come, made her your slave by giving her the best head she’s ever had, don’t leave her alone just yet. Talk to her, stroke her body, caress her breasts. Keep making love to her quietly until she’s come all the way down. A man can get off and go to sleep in the same breath and feel no remorse, no sense of loss. But a woman by nature requires some sensitivity from her lover in those first few moments after sex.

Oral sex can be the most exciting sexual experiences you can have. But it’s what you make it. Take your time, practice often, pay attention to your lover’s signals, and most of all, enjoy yourself.

How Valid Is The Friend Code Still?

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The friend code – somewhat of an unwritten journal. Everyone knows the rules of the friend code, but they’re not actually written down anywhere. But when one of the friend code rules is broken by someone within a friendship group it’s almost as bad as murder. Not that I’m saying murder is an unwritten concept! It is very much illegal and definitely written down!
But in today’s society is the friend code still as valid? Does everyone follow the same rules? Because I’ve known quite a few ‘friends’ to screw each other over for the sake of something stupid.
So now I need work out if I could be breaking some unwritten rules if I pursue with what I want to do right now, at what point do I turn into an awful human being for going along with something I want to do.
One of my best friends has been friend zoned massively by some guy, but she likes him. Has liked him for a number of months in fact, but he’s always had a girlfriend since we have both known him until recently.
Now I haven’t been friend zoned by him and I’m attracted to him and we have a laugh, but I don’t want to feel like the biggest traitor in the world for seeing where these feelings could go!
There is no way in a million years I would want to hurt my friend and I don’t even know for 100% if he’s even interested in me!
If I knew for sure he was and I thought it could be going somewhere I would talk to her, but I feel like right now it’s too soon.
This is where the friend code fucks me over a bit, I love my friends to pieces and if one of them liked a guy I thought I had feelings for but he had friend zoned me I would tell them to go for it, but maybe this is just me!
I say we need to have the friend code written down and put as a law so there is no confusion and no one gets fucked over!

Wait, Who Invented The Friendship Barrier?

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How can anyone completely define when and why the boundary between friends and something more? Is it when you sleep together, or when it is clear to both of you that there is something more between you when you are alone? I think the majority of girls and guys have had an issue with falling for a friend, but when you both have the same group of friends and are always around each other is it really wise to go there?

I live in uni halls at the moment and although I live in a flat with 5 other girls I have made friends with a very lovely group of guys whose friendship means the world to me! I don’t know if it’s just me who feels like this but I always feel that getting relationship advice from your guy friends (from a girl’s point of view) always seems to be more helpful because they are never afraid of telling you what they really think even if it hurts your feelings. At uni I’m in a friendship group of about 8 people and it just so happens that me and one of the guys have slept  together 3 times now (only when I am drunk might I add) but it’s now become obvious that there might be more feelings on his side (oh dear!) having a drunk thing hasn’t affected our friendship in the slightest because we both know where we stand, but since he has now been trying to kiss me when alcohol has not been involved it has made me think maybe this is my fault for getting into bed with him in the first place! I love him to pieces as a friend but I would always worry that those personality traits I laugh at as a friend I would find horribly irritating as a girlfriend.

I have to admit, I am very glad to be going home for summer to be getting away from all the drama I have created this year (unintentionally) hopefully giving some space between me and some of the guys will mean feelings will fade and when I come back for my third year I will have no distractions! (I can only hope)