Technically, everyone’s a trial until you find “the one” but how can you know you’ve found the one you want forever unless you’ve taken out a few 30 day free trials at some point?
I’m happy treating people I date in a “practice makes perfect” kind of attitude until I find someone I have a genuine connection with and to be honest, I’m in no real rush to do that, it seems to me that it tends to happen when you’re looking for it least anyway.
All the “trials” will be fun, they will pass the time and they will make sure I remain on my “a game” …. I wouldn’t want to suddenly be overcome with nerves when I bump into the person I actually want and have an interest in.
You know all those dates you’ve had that make you cringe thinking about because they were so bad, or the person turned out to be the total opposite of what you actually want in someone? They were not a waste of time, they were practice runs.
Those people you’ve wasted months at a time over, again, not a waste. It might feel like it but honestly they’re all helping you, your trial runs help you become more confident and more certain of yourself.
Treat every unsuccessful love as a trial, because ultimately that’s what they are. It won’t go wrong with the person you’re actually supposed to be with.