When you’re with one person but know you love another, how do you end things? How do you look at someone who cares so much about you and tell them that you don’t feel the same way, that your heart belongs somewhere else?
First you have to tell someone who you care about so much that you love somebody else is liberating. Many people would just squish that feeling down, appear cold, potentially hurt the other and just move on so as not to feel the pain. By being willing to sit in the fire and feel your discomfort and do the right thing according to your soul’s highest expression makes you an honorable person.
Second, we have all been the receiver of this situation at some point. Remember how much it hurt when you were rejected in the past. See things from another point of view. The results will provide greater freedom, expanded confidence and more ease of communication with your soon-to-be ex.
Third, what it really takes is to stay present in your body with your heart open and connected to another, allowing them to have their own experience and not trying to save them or fix them or hold back your own discomfort in seeing them in pain. Just everybody sitting in the fire and breathing. To me, this is a conscious relationship. Conscious. Allow everything and resist nothing — even the wobbly stuff.
This is exactly what the situation is inviting you to do. It’s a difficult yet completely noble path to complete a relationship in a conscious, honoring, kind, authentic and caring manner. By choosing this path, you are able to un-couple consciously with no regrets, moving onto your new relationship having grown even more courageous and vulnerable.
One final note: the capacity to navigate intense emotions and stay heart connected having calibrated your emotions so as to come from your most conscious choices and highest vision is a skill you will use the rest of your life.